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IF A WOMAN HAS SMOOCHES AND SUCKING OF BREASTS BEFORE MARRIAGE AND WITHOUT KNOWING IT IS A SIN UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF SOMEONE ELSE HOW SHOULD SHE APOLOGISE TO ALLAH?

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IF A WOMAN HAS SMOOCHES AND SUCKING OF BREASTS BEFORE MARRIAGE AND WITHOUT KNOWING IT IS A SIN UNDER THE INFLUENCE OF SOMEONE ELSE HOW SHOULD SHE APOLOGISE TO ALLAH?

 

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Forgivness of sins

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person,  no grave, no prophet,  no imam,  no dai,  nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

 

Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, a ‘sin’ is a ‘sin’, regardless of whether one does it knowingly or in ignorance of the Law.  Even in the courts of this world, one cannot claim ignorance of the law of the land…. it remains the responsibility of the subject to find out and follow the law! 

 

Allow us to relate a very simple example: if a person drives at 100km/hour in a 60 km/hour zone and when caught by the traffic police claims that he did not know the speed-limit, the police will not accept his excuse and will issue him a speeding ticket.

 

Thus if a man or a woman has entered into a physical relationship out of marriage, one would be in clear violation and transgression of the Law in the Sight of Allah Subhanah.  The one and only atonement for transgressing the laws and limits of Allah Subhanah is to turn back to their Lord and seek sincere repentance, make a solemn covenant with Him that they would never ever commit the sin again, and do righteous good deeds thereafter; it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.

 

Your Question: HOW SHOULD SHE APOLOGISE TO ALLAH?


The conditions or ways to seek sincere Taubah or Repentance from the Merciful Lord are:

  1. One is aware that he has sinned, and feels sorry and ashamed at one’s transgression.
  2. Makes a solemn covenant and promise with Allah that they will not repeat the sin ever again.
  3. Turns to Allah and seeks forgiveness, before one has met with one’s appointment of death.
  4. Is a believer and does righteous good deeds thereafter. 

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54:

(O Prophet) say: “O My servants who have wronged their own souls….Do not despair of Allah’s Mercy!  Surely,  Allah forgives all sins.   He indeed is the All Forgiving,  All Merciful.   Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you;  for then you may get no help from anywhere.”

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:

Allah likes such good people very much, who,  if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin,  remember Allah instantly,  and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings.  For who,  but Allah,  can forgive sins?   (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did.   These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah,  and with Gardens beneath which canals flow,  and they will reside therein forever!   How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71:

The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth.   When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them,  they say, “Peace to you”;  (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, “O our Lord,  save us from the torment of Hell,  for its torment is killing!  It is an evil abode,  and an evil resting place”.  (And those) who,  when they spend are neither extravagant,  nor miserly,  but keep the golden mean between the two extremes.  (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone,  nor kill a soul unjustly,  which Allah has forbidden,  nor commit adultery… He who does this shall be punished for his sin,  and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection,  and he shall abide in a state of ignominy;  EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS),  AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS.   For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful.   In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!

 

Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54:

When those come to you who believe in Our Signs,  say: "Peace be on you!  Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy.  Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."

 

Such is the Mercy and Grace of the Lord Most Gracious, that if one turns to Him and seeks sincere repentance for their deeds, not only does He forgive them their sin, but He, in His Sublime Mercy and Infinite Grace, changes those evil deeds into good deeds in their Book of Records!  Such is the Magnanimity and Benevolence of The Lord Most Merciful towards His believing and repenting slaves who turn to Him!

 

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2357        Narrated by Abdullah ibn Mas'ud

Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who repents of a sin is like him who has committed no sin."

 

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone.  Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

 

Your brother and well wisher in Islam,

 

 

Burhan

 


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