Disobedient to parents and still paradise
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
the quran says there are 7 doors to heaven, 7 ways to get to heaven.
one of them is through the obedience of parents.
if someone does not get along with his/her parents, can he/she choose to go to heaven through performing other deeds besides parents obedience.
Please don`t send me verses or hadiths that highlight the importance of parents and their obedience.
Just tell me if one can get to heaven through a door other than thru parents` obedience and if there are any verses or hadiths that back this statement.
Thanks for your help,
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Disobedient to parents and still Paradise
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Your Statement: the quran says there are 7 doors to heaven, 7 ways to get to heaven.
The Prophet (saws) said, "
The Glorious Quran is silent regarding the exact number of
gates to Paradise; but there are several authentic narrations of the Prophet
(saws) who mentioned that
Your Statement: one of them is through the obedience of parents.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud Darda
When a man came to him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce," he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (saws) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of Paradise; so if you wish, keep to the gate, or lose it!"
Not only does the obedience of parents lead the believer
to a gate of Paradise, the Messenger of Allah (saws) mentioned that it leads to
one of the ‘Best’ gates of
Your Statement: Please don`t send me verses or hadiths that highlight the importance of parents and their obedience.
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, there are just so many commands in the Quran and the Sunnah regarding the due importance of the obedience to parents in Islam; but since you have specifically instructed us not to quote you any verses or hadiths regarding this subject, we will try to obey your instructions.
Your Question: Just tell me if one can get to heaven through a door other than thru parents` obedience and if there are any verses or hadiths that back this statement.
The Prophet (saws) was asked about the ‘Grave Sins’, and He (saws) replied, "They are:--
(1 ) To join others in worship with Allah,
(2) To be undutiful to one's parents,
(3) To kill a person (which Allah has forbidden to kill)
(4) And to give a false witness."
Second only to the absolute gravest sin and abomination of ‘shirk’ (associating others with Allah Subhanah) in gravity of sins in the Sight of Allah Subhanah is the disobedience to parents!
Even if one has been disobedient and undutiful to one’s parents all their life, if they turn back to Allah in repentance seeking His forgiveness, and amend their conduct with their parents….it is expected that they will find their Lord Forgiving and Merciful.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136:
Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
But if after knowing the gravity of the sin, one knowingly persists in being disobedient and undutiful to ones parents and death overtakes him in that state, then his case and decision is with Allah Subhanah Alone.
A man said, "O Messenger of Allah (saws)
what rights can parents demand from their children?" He (saws) replied, "They are (or
your relation with them will determine) your
The Prophet (saws) said, "An
undutiful son, a gambler, one who casts up what he has given, and one
who is addicted to wine will not enter
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "There
are three people to whom Allah has forbidden
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "He who
casts up the favours he has done, he who is disobedient to parents,
and he who is addicted to wine will not enter
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6189 Narrated by
Allah's Messenger (saws) said: ‘Let him
be humbled into dust! Let him be
humbled into dust!’ It was
said: ‘O Allah's Messenger (saws), who is he?” He (saws) said: ‘He who sees either
of his parents during their old age or he sees both of them, but he does
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me alone. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your brother and well wisher in Islam,