How to keep husband happy?
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asslam laykam plz will u send me some infomation of how to deal with a husband and to keep your husband happy all the time?
also plz will u forward me some muslim councilour contacts plz for marriage?
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How to keep husband happy?
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Your Question: plz will u send me some infomation of how to deal with a husband and to keep your husband happy all the time?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 30 Surah Rum verse 21: And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them, and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); Verily, in that are Signs for those who reflect.
Dear and Beloved Sister in Islam, what I am about to say from the Quran and the Sunnah regarding the key to a successful relationship between the husband and a wife in marriage might seem politically incorrect in this educated-modern but ignorant and ungodly world; but Allah is our witness, there is no better path to a successful marriage!
While Islam has laid several responsibilities and duties
upon the believing men as a test in the life of this world (financial,
physical, governance, jihad, etc) for an entry into Paradise; Allah Subhanah
has balanced the test of duties and responsibilities of the believing women for
their entry into Paradise with one supreme responsibility that is equivalent to
all the duties of the man! If the
believing woman is successful in this one test, she has been promised
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 34: Men are the protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more than the other, and because they support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard in (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard (their property, their chastity, their honor, etc.)
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3254 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the Gates of Paradise she wishes."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 286 Narrated by Umm Salamah
The Prophet (saws) said: If a woman dies
while her husband was pleased with her, she will enter
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3272 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
When Allah's Messenger (saws) was asked which woman was best, he (saws) replied, "The one who pleases (her husband) when he looks at her, obeys him when he gives a command, and does not go against his wishes regarding her person or property by doing anything of which he disapproves."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 284 Narrated by Abu Ali Talq ibn Ali
The Prophet (saws) said: When a man sends for his wife for the satisfaction of his need, she should go to him even if she may be occupied in baking bread (cooking food).
In light of the guidance of the Quran and the Sunnah, any wife who sincerely wishes to have peace, tranquility, harmony, love and mercy between herself and her husband must be devoutly obedient to her husband! In these modern-educated but ignorant and ungodly times, where the wife and the husband are pronounced as absolute equals and thus made to compete against rather than complement each other; where each is guided by their supposed friends and loved ones to dominate the other; where the woman is told time and again to come out and deliver herself from being obedient to her husband; where obedience to ones husband is labeled by the ignorant as being a door-mat; the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) regarding what makes a successful marriage might indeed seem strange in this modern but ignorant society! But the honest truth is, successful marriages are also a strange commodity in these trying times!
Sahih Muslim Hadith 270 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Messenger of Allah (saws) said: Islam initiated as something strange, and it would revert to its (old position) of being strange; so Good Tidings for the Strangers!
This modern-educated-but-ignorant society has played right into the hands and ploys of the Shaytaan, who likes nothing better than dissension between the husband and the wife!
Sahih Muslim Hadith 6754 Narrated by Jabir ibn Abdullah
I heard Allah's Messenger (saws) as saying: The throne of Iblis is upon the ocean and he sends detachments (to different parts) in order to put people to trial; and the most important figure in his eyes is one who is most notorious in sowing the seed of dissension (between a husband and wife).
Thus, if the believers wish to live their married lives with their spouse in peace and harmony and tranquility and love and mercy; the believing man will have to fulfill his responsibilities and duties and give all his rights in full to his family, and the believing woman will have to live her life in absolute obedience to her husband. If either of the two fall short in any of their responsibilities, love and mercy will give way to oppression and dissension!
It is the duty and responsibility of the believing women to figure out what exactly pleases her husband and strive to do those deeds; and ascertain what displeases her husband and absolutely abstain from doing those deeds! Such is the level of obedience demanded from the believing wife in a righteous marriage, that the Messenger of Allah (saws) said these words in an authentic hadith:
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 285 Narrated by Abu Hurayrah
The Prophet (saws) said: Had it been permissible that a person may prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered that a wife should prostrate herself before her husband!
Your Question: also plz will u forward me some muslim councilour contacts plz for marriage?
Beloved Sister in Islam, if you could kindly give us the location of your city and state, we shall try to the best of our ability to get you in contact with some righteous muslim scholars or counselors who might be able to guide you in light of the Quran and the Sunnah, Insha Allah.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,