Divorced wish to marry again
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dear brother burhan
how r u and how is your health brother i would like to know about divorce and after divorce if the girl and the guy want to get together again what all things we should do to get together after divorce pls reply my question this is important to me brother and i want this to be secret
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Divorced wish to marry again
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verses 229-231:
229 A divorce is only permissible twice: after that the parties should either hold together on equitable terms or separate with kindness. It is not lawful for you (men) to take back any of your gifts (from your wives) except when both parties fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah. If ye (judges) do indeed fear that they would be unable to keep the limits ordained by Allah there is no blame on either of them if she give something for her freedom. These are the limits ordained by Allah; so do not transgress them. If any do transgress the limits ordained by Allah such persons wrong (themselves as well as others).
230 So if a husband divorces his wife (irrevocably) he cannot after that remarry her until after she has married another husband and he has divorced her. In that case there is no blame on either of them if they reunite provided they feel that they can keep the limits ordained by Allah. Such are the limits ordained by Allah which He makes plain to those who understand.
231 When ye divorce women and they fulfil the term of their (`Iddat) either take them back on equitable terms or set them free on equitable terms; but do not take them back to injure them or to take undue advantage; if anyone does that He wrongs his own soul. Do not treat Allah's Revelations as a jest but solemnly rehearse Allah's favors on you and the fact that He sent down to you the Book and Wisdom for your instruction. And fear Allah and know that Allah is well acquainted with all things.
Islam has permitted the man to pronounce a total of three divorces in any one marriage; the first two of the three divorce rights are revocable, but if the man pronounces the third divorce, it will be absolutely final and irrevocable.
Thus if the husband has pronounced either the first or the second divorce in his marriage, he has a time limit of three menses periods after the pronouncement of divorce to take his wife back. If the husband does take his wife back before the expiry of this waiting period, there is no need for a new nikaah but one of his three divorce rights in the marriage will be deemed utilized.
If the waiting period of three menses periods has expired after the pronouncement of the first or the second divorce and the man and the woman wish to remarry again; then there has to be a brand new nikaah contract between the two, and a brand new mehr has to be determined.
This procedure of announcing divorce and remarrying is only permitted twice in any one marriage. If the husband was to pronounce divorce on his wife for a third time, then it will be considered a final and irrevocable divorce in Islam. There is absolutely no way this man and this woman can remarry after the pronouncement of the third divorce, unless the woman marries and consummates her marriage with another man; and the new husband dies, or of his own will and choice, divorces her. Only after this the woman would be eligible to marry her first husband by performing a new nikaah and upon the determination of a new mehr.
Your Question: after divorce if the girl and the guy want to get together again what all things we should do to get together after divorce
What needs to be determined to answer your question, is how many divorces were announced by the man in this particular marriage. If one or two divorces were announced, then the couple have an option to remarry; but if the third and irrevocable divorce has been announced there is absolutely no way for the couple to marry again, unless and until the girl marries and consummates her marriage with another man; and the new husband dies, or of his own free will and choice divorces her.
These are the limits ordained by Allah; so do not transgress them. If any do transgress the limits ordained by Allah such persons wrong (themselves as well as others). (Quran 2:229)
Do not treat Allah's Revelations as a jest but solemnly rehearse Allah's favors on you and the fact that He sent down to you the Book and Wisdom for your instruction. And fear Allah and know that Allah is well acquainted with all things. (Quran 2:231)
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,