Logic behind 4 marriages
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I just want to ask that in Islam its permission for men to marry with max four wives and not even strickted that he should ask his first wife.But what about women if she marries with 2 husbands will the first man be able to accept her with her second husband.Obviously no man can share her wife with any other so y is it for women that they should bear with husbands even if he marries four wives. PLease reply me ASAP waiting anxiously.
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Logic behind 4 marriages
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Please find below an answer by our beloved and respected brother and teacher and one of the most respected scholars in Islam in this day and age, Dr. Brother Zakir Naik of Islamic Research Foundation of India.
Why is a man allowed to have more than one wife in Islam? i.e. why is polygamy allowed in Islam?
Definition of Polygamy Polygamy means a system of marriage whereby one person has more than one spouse. Polygamy can be of two types. One is polygamy where a man marries more than one woman, and the other is polyandry, where a woman marries more than one man. In Islam, limited polygamy is permitted; whereas polyandry is completely prohibited.
Now coming to the original question, why is a man allowed to have more than one wife?
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 4 Surah Nisaa verse 3 (part): If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, marry women of your choice two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them) then only one.
The Quran is the only religious scripture in the world that says,"marry only one".
The Quran is the only religious book, on the face of this earth, that contains the phrase marry only one. There is no other religious book that instructs men to have only one wife. In none of the other religious scriptures, whether it be the Vedas, the Ramayan, the Mahabharat, the Geeta, the Talmud or the Bible does one find a restriction on the number of wives. According to these scriptures one can marry as many as one wishes. It was only later, that the Hindu priests and the Christian Church restricted the number of wives to one.
Hindu religious personalities, according to their scriptures, had multiple
wives. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife.
In earlier times, Christian men were permitted as many wives as they wished, since the Bible puts no restriction on the number of wives. It was only a few centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one.
is permitted in Judaism. According to Talmudic law, Abraham had three wives,
and Solomon had hundreds of wives. The practice of polygamyy continued till
Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah (960 C.E to 1030 C.E) issued an edict against it. The
Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice
till as late as 1950, until an Act of the Chief Rabbinate of
Hindus are more polygynous than Muslims
report of the Committee of The Status of Woman in Islam, published in 1975
mentions on page numbers 66 and 67 that the percentage of polygamous marriages
between the years 1951 and 1961 was 5.06% among the Hindus and only 4.31% among
the Muslims. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more
than one wife. It is illegal for any non-Muslim in
Let us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife.
Quran permits limited polygyny
As I mentioned earlier, Quran is the only religious book on the face of the earth that says marry only one. The context of this phrase is the following verse from Surah Nisa of the Glorious Quran:
"Marry women of your choice, two, or three, or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one."
Before the Quran was revealed, there was no upper limit for polygamy and many men had scores of wives, some even hundreds. Islam put an upper limit of four wives. Islam gives a man permission to marry two, three or four women, only on the condition that he deals justly with them.
In the same chapter i.e. Surah Nisa verse 129 says:
"Ye are never able to be fair and just as between women...."
Therefore polygamy is not a rule but an exception. It is not an order or commandment, but rather something which is permitted. Many people are under the misconception that it is compulsory for a Muslim man to have more than one wife.
Broadly, Islam has five categories of Dos and Donts:
Fard i.e. compulsory or obligatory
Mustahab i.e. recommended or encouraged
Mubah i.e. permissible or allowed
Makruh i.e. not recommended or discouraged
Haraam i.e. prohibited or forbidden
Polygamy falls in the middle category of things that are permissible. It cannot be said that a Muslim who has two, three or four wives is a better Muslim as compared to a Muslim who has only one wife.
Average life span of females is more than that of males
By nature males and females are born in approximately the same ratio. A female child has more immunity than a male child. A female child can fight the germs and diseases better than the male child. For this reason, during the pediatric age itself there are more deaths among males as compared to the females.
During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. More men die due to accidents and diseases than women. The average life span of females is more than that of males, and at any given time one finds more widows in the world than widowers.
World female population is more than male population
Restricting each and every man to have only one wife is not practical
every man got married to one woman, there would still be more than thirty
million females in U.S.A who would not be able to get husbands (considering
my sister happens to be one of the unmarried women living in
In Western society, it is common for a man to have mistresses and/or multiple extra-marital affairs, in which case, the woman leads a disgraceful, unprotected life. The same society, however, cannot accept a man having more than one wife, in which women retain their honourable, dignified position in society and lead a protected life.
Thus the only two options before a woman who cannot find a husband is to marry a married man or to become public property. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second.
There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women.
If a man is allowed to have more than one wife, then why does Islam prohibit a woman from having more than one husband?
A lot of people, including some Muslims, question the logic of allowing Muslim men to have more than one spouse while denying the same right to women.
Let me first state emphatically, that the foundation of an Islamic society is justice and equity. Allah has created men and women as equal, but with different capabilities and different responsibilities. Men and women are different, physiologically and psychologically. Their roles and responsibilities are different. Men and women are equal in Islam, but not identical.
Surah Nisa Chapter 4 verses 22 to 24 gives the list of women with whom you cannot marry and it is further mentioned in Surah Nisa Chapter 4 verse 24 "Also (prohibited are) women already married"
The following points enumerate the reasons why polyandry is prohibited in Islam:
If a man
has more than one wife, the parents of the children born of such marriages can
easily be identified. The father as well as the mother can easily be
identified. In case of a woman marrying more than one husband, only the mother
of the children born of such marriages will be identified and not the father.
Islam gives tremendous importance to the identification of both parents, mother
and father. Psychologists tell us that children who do not know their parents,
especially their father undergo severe mental trauma and disturbances. Often
they have an unhappy childhood. It is for this reason that the children of
prostitutes do not have a healthy childhood. If a child born of such wedlock is
admitted in school, and when the mother is asked the name of the father, she
would have to give two or more names! I am aware that recent advances in
science have made it possible for both the mother and father to be identified
with the help of genetic testing. Thus this point which was applicable for the
past may not be applicable for the present.
more polygamous by nature as compared to a woman.
it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite having
several wives. A woman, in a similar position, having several husbands, will
not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman undergoes several
psychological and behavioral changes due to different phases of the menstrual
who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same
time and has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted
diseases which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them
have no extra-marital sex. This is not the case in a man having more than one
wife, and none of them having extra-marital sex.
The above reasons are those that one can easily identify. There are probably many more reasons why Allah, in His Infinite Wisdom, has prohibited polyandry.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 36: It does not behove a believing man and a believing woman that when Allah and His Messenger have given their decision in a matter, they should exercise an option in that matter of theirs. For whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed strayed into manifest error.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of being led astray.
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Your Brother in Islam,