Marriage and past
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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salaam brothers i have a question which is bothering me a lot i like a girl which is agakhani and i am a muslim she was married and unhappy with her husband it was a force marriage during her 5 yr marriage she made many friends and liked them but they cheated on her and used her too when i came in her life she was still married but i told her we cant have relation untill u get divorce so she loved me too and she did get the divorce when i was with her some people accused her of being bad character they said she slept with them when i asked her she denied she didnt tell me anything for 1 yr one day she accepted she did made mistakes in past and she said she is really sorry for them and she wants me to accept her and forgive her so what should i doo should i marry her or no because her past reallly bothers me what does islam says about it
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5: This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 7.27 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "A woman is married for four things, i.e., her wealth, her family status, her beauty and her religion. So you should marry the religious woman (otherwise) you will be a loser."
Dear and beloved brother in Islam, Allah and His Messenger (saws) have exhorted the believers to seek a chaste and religious women when seeking marriage. If you have a doubt on the chastity of the women, and she has herself confessed that she might have made some mistakes in the past; then in our humble opinion, it would be best for you and her if you took the advice and guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws) and sought a chaste and religious woman in marriage. The thought that a woman was married and sought relationship with other men out of her marriage is something that should indeed bother any believer; for if she has not sincerely repented to her Lord and amended her conduct, what would stop her doing the same again when she marries another man?
But if you feel she is sincerely repentant to her Lord for her past mistakes, and has made a solemn covenant with Him that she would never ever repeat her mistake and amend her conduct; there is no harm in seeking marriage with the sister.
May Allah Subhanah give you the wisdom and the courage to make a decision which is beneficial to you in the life of this world and the Hereafter.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,