Relation with wife
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Thanks for guiding me through your e-mail I received. He has not said once, He divorce me but when I talk to his second wife she told me this that she got married due to he and his family confirms that he divorced me.
What he did he ran away when my daughter was only three months old
1999, he wanted a son from me I tried to contact him for one year but when he
came back to
His father refused to accept me as pregnant by him and said my son never went to see me.
I did the abortion he came back to
Now my family is wants me to either get divorce from him and get married again. He phoned me yesterday and I disconnected due to I talk to his mother and father and they says he has divorced me and why I am spoiling his new marriage his mother says he divorce you if you cannot look after your daughter I can take her to Pak and you should get married to some one, his sister says why I open the doors for him ,His father uses vulguer language and my whole family All he said my current situation is I am married and due to his 2 wife disagree to accept me he cannot help or call me back to his house other wise his father won't allow the inheritance he is waiting for.
If I see him then again it is a sin due to the equal rights they laugh when I talk about Islam.
He says who can tell me about the religion, I am right.
Please guide me more about Khula he does not want to leave any one. Many Thanks
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Your Question: Please guide me more about Khula
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 229: Divorce may be pronounced twice; then either keep the wife with honor, or let her leave gracefully. And it is not lawful for you to take back anything out of what you have given them. There is however, an exception to this; if you fear that they might not be able to keep within the limits imposed by Allah, there is no harm if both agree mutually that the wife should obtain divorce by giving something as compensation to the husband (only when she initiates the divorce). These are the bounds set by Allah; therefore, do not violate them, for those who violate the bounds of Allah are indeed the dhalims (transgressors)!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 231: And when you have divorced your wives and they are about to complete their prescribed terms, then either retain them gracefully or release them generously. It is transgression to retain them merely for harassment. And whoever does that indeed wrongs his own self! Do not play with Allahs Commandments, and remember that Allah has blessed you with a great favor. He admonishes you to show due respect to the Book and the Wisdom He has sent you. Fear Allah and know that He is fully aware of everything.
people who are married together cannot live together for any reason, Islam has
given a route where either of the two may initiate a divorce proceeding against
the other. If the woman initiates a
divorce proceedings against her husband, it will be known as a khula in
Islamic Law. This can be for a number of
reasons, from not getting along with the
husband, to the husband disappearing for
a number of years, or even impotency,
etc. Whatever the reason may be, the wife will have to go to a Qadi or
The husband has a right to demand that the mehr he paid to his wife at the time of marriage be returned back to him, or he may opt to be generous and forgive all or part of it.
The guidance of Allah Subhanah regarding divorce are very clear; and three words or characteristics should be employed when two people who were married to each other, but for some reason the marriage does not work out, and they want to separate: 1. Honor, 2. Grace, and 3. Generosity. These are the commands and boundaries Allah has set on the believers, and whoever harasses or oppresses the partner will have a severe accounting in the Just Court of Allah Subhanah.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of being led astray.
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