Working with non mehram males
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
i know its a sin to be alone with
males. but i work in a place where it is unavoiadble to be alone with men at
late hours. if i keep my faith strong is it still a sin?
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In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 24 Surah Noor verses 30-31: Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: and Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.
And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O you who have believed! Turn you all together towards Allah that you may attain Bliss.
Allah commands the believing men and the believing women to lower their gaze and guard their modesty in the above aayahs, and commands the women to draw their veils over themselves when in the company of non-mehram males.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 53: If you (the noble companions of the Prophet) have to ask the wives of the Prophet for something, ask for it from behind a curtain. This is a better way for the purity of your, as well as their hearts.
The above command is for some of the most noble and best people who ever lived on this planet earth; the companions of the Prophet, and the chaste and noble wives of the Prophet of Allah (saws). Allah commands the companions of the Prophet that if they have to ask for something from the wives of the Prophet, they should do so from behind a veil or a curtain, because this way is better and purer for both, the companions and the wives of the Prophet (saws). No people could have controlled their emotions and feared Allah more than the noble companions and the chaste wives of the Prophet; but even to such noble souls, Allah has commanded that it is purer and better that if they need to talk to the wives of the Prophet, they should do so from behind a veil.
Islam does not prohibit the essential talking between non-mehrams, provided the laws of the segregation of sexes are honored. If one needs to talk to a non-mehram, one should lower ones gaze and talk to them in a business-like and straight forward manner. What Islam strictly prohibits is the free mixing of the sexes and vain and casual talk amongst non-mehrams.
If one, in the order of genuine need, talks to a non-mehram member of the opposite sex in a straight forward and business-like manner; there is no harm and no sin; provided all the restrictions related to non-mehrams like donning the veil, lowering the gaze, and holding only essential talk, etc. are honored.
But if one, in the guise of academics, seeks to befriend a non-mehram member of the opposite sex; or seeks to meet in private, or seeks casual or vain talk; it will give the Shaytaan the chance to urge one or both of them to exceed the limits. Seeking to form such an illicit relationship would indeed be a grave sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah; as this path could lead to the abomination and one of the gravest of sins in the sight of Allah Subhanah: ie. zina (fornication or adultery).
Your Question: if i keep my faith strong is it
still a sin?
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a (non-mehram) woman the Shaytaan makes a third."
Beloved sister in Islam, it may be that you keep your faith strong; but there is always a chance that the men may not be able to be as pure of heart; and at the opportune moment, the Shaytaan may lead them (or you) to a path of transgression. It would be best and purer for you (and them) if you could avoid being alone in the company of non-mehram men, and if that is not possible search for a new job which does not put you in this path of possible temptation. If you do this for the sake of your faith, Allah Will give you a generous reward from Himself and will enrich you from His Endless Bounties in this life and the Hereafter, Insha Allah.
If one trusts, obeys, and follows the guidance and commands of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of never ever being misled; but if one believes, obeys and follows any other guidance, other than that of Allah and His Messenger (saws), he can be assured of being led astray.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,