Love for marriage
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I asked you this question before, and again I am asking. Please give me the answer to this question, so as I may get out of the mental confusion I am going through.
I wanted to ask, that if someone likes somebody, than is there anything wrong with it. I mean is it wrong in front of Allah? Will we be punished for this? Is this sin?
If anyone is in love with someone, supposing, a girl is in love with a boy. She thinks about him. But this love involves nothing unethical or non pious. She respects him a lot and loves him. She never thinks anything bad for him or in the wrong sense. In this case, is this regarded as a sin?
Is to love someone, in Islam, is a sin? Or will we be punished for it?
Does Allah become angry upon this? Is this wrong?
Please, guide me through this. I will be really very grateful to you.
PS: please, i want you to answer my question via mail, on my e-mail id.
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Beloved sister in Islam, we assume that by the term ‘love someone’, you are referring to a feeling one who is eligible to marry has for another member of the opposite gender.
To like or love someone is a natural mercy which Allah Subhanah has bestowed in the hearts of mankind, and there is absolutely no sin in having such a feeling of ‘liking’ someone. The sin or reward depends on what steps or deeds one takes or does after one likes another!
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5 (part): (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time, when ye give them their due ‘mehr’, and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith, fruitless is his work and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good).
If a girl ‘likes’ a non-mehram boy, and takes the righteous and pious path of informing her father or brother or guardian to seek marriage with the boy; there is absolutely no harm.
But if the girl and the boy she ‘likes’ start initiating or having a secret relationship, or meet in private, or talk vain talk in private, etc. then that would indeed be considered a grave sin in the sight of Allah Subhanah. The believer, who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day, must abstain from such lewdness and secret intrigues.
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Your Brother in Islam,