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Dear Br. Burhan:I was born in a Bohra Family in
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 22 Surah Hajj verse 54: And that those on whom knowledge has been bestowed may learn that the (Qur'an) is the Truth from thy Lord, and that they may believe therein and their hearts may be made humbly (open) to it: for verily Allah is the Guide of those who believe to the Straight Way.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumar verse 23: Allah has revealed the most beautiful message in the form of a Book consistent with itself (yet) repeating (its teaching in various aspects): the skins of those who fear their Lord tremble there at; then their skins and their hearts do soften to the celebration of Allah's Praises. Such is the guidance of Allah! He guides therewith whom He pleases, but such as Allah leaves to stray can have none to guide.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 22 Surah Hajj verse 78: Exert your utmost for the cause of Allah, as one should. He has chosen you for His service and has not laid on you any hardship in your deen. Therefore, be steadfast in the religion of your father, Abraham. Allah had called you Muslims before this, and has called you (by the same name) in this Quran also, so that the Messenger may be a witness in regard to you, and you may be witnesses in regard to the rest of mankind. Therefore, establish the salaat and pay the zakaat, and hold fast to Allah. He (Allah) is your Maula: what an excellent Maula and what an excellent Helper!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 22 Surah Hajj verses 13: Then, instead of Allah, he invokes those who can do him neither harm nor good. This is the last extremity of deviation. He invokes those who are more likely to do him harm, than good! What an EVIL Maula he chooses, and what an evil companion.
My beloved and dear brother in Islam, when one is born in a certain way, or has grown up in obedience and reverence of a certain High Priest, or one grows up in a place and finds his elders, fathers and forefathers in subjugation of a certain family, etc., without the help and mercy of the Merciful Lord, it is indeed very very difficult initially to even comprehend or admit that they could be in the wrong. All Praise is due to Allah Subhanah, who has helped us, had mercy upon us, and guided us to the understanding of the Holy Quran which leads to the Siraat al Mustaqeem (Straight Path of Islam).
If one had to choose the biggest amongst all the innumerable favors the Merciful Lord has done on His slaves, then the single biggest has to be His gift and mercy of His guidance to the Truth of Al-Islam.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 42 Shuraa verse 13 (part): Allah chooses to Himself those whom He pleases, and guides to Himself those who turn (to Him).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verses 125-126:
125 Those whom Allah (in His Plan) Wills to guide He opens their breast to Islam; those whom He Wills to leave straying He makes their breast close and constricted as if they had to climb up to the skies! Thus does Allah (heap) the penalty on those who refuse to believe.
126 This is the way of thy Lord leading straight. We have detailed the Signs for those who receive admonition.
Your Question: Despite of knowing all this, I still couldnt break away from this cult (because of my family ties). In other words I dont have courage to do so. How you cross this barier? Can you give me (and for many like me) some words of advise?
My beloved and dear Brother in Islam, I can only relate my own humble experience in how Allah Subhanah helped me to cross this difficult and seemingly impossible barrier. I was amongst the youngest in my family, and Allah is my witness, the crossing of this barrier seemed almost insurmountable. My family was so engrossed then in the unconditional reverence and obedience of the High Priest and his family, that they would not even bear to hear one word uttered in their dissonance; no matter how much Truth, and logic, and common sense was established. But Allah Subhanah, in His Infinite and Sublime Mercy, had made the guidance and understanding of the Truth of the Quran and Sunnah so pleasing to my heart; that the falsehood of shirk and kufr and hypocrisy just had to vanish, Alhamdolillah!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verse 81: And declare, The Truth has come and falsehood has vanished. And falsehood is a thing that must by its nature, vanish!
Beloved brother, after Allah Subhanah blessed me to comprehend and understand the basics of the Glorious Quran, I must admit that it took me almost a couple of years of intense studying of the Quran to have the courage to directly confront my elders and my family members, although I used to regularly hide and go to pray in the mosque and to the Quran classes. Allah Subhanah is my witness, I had absolutely no courage and strength of my own, except that Allah Subhanah had blessed me to understand the basic Truth from the Quran and Sunnah; and by Allah, the Truth of the Quran and Sunnah has a strength of its own!
In retrospect, I must admit also that although I had absolute confidence in the Truth of the Quran and Sunnah, I was unable to, due to my own severe impatience and my shortcomings, apply my wisdom in the matter of my declaration! I did not apply wisdom nor did I practice patience when I started to challenge the beliefs of my elders and peers, and that put me on a path of direct conflict with my loved ones. In the process of my own impatience and shortcomings, I was practically made a social outcast by my beloved family members and my friends who believed unconditionally in the High Priest and his family.
Allah says in the Holy Quran: Chapter 16, Surah An-Nahl Ayat 125: Invite to the way of your Lord with wisdom and excellent admonition and argue with people in the best manner. Your Lord knows best who has gone astray from His Way and who is Rightly guided.
I just have a feeling that had I obeyed the above guidance of the Glorious Quran, and tried to invite my beloved brethren to the Way of Truth with wisdom and excellent admonition and used logic and compassion as my weapon instead of direct confrontation, I would not have lost my beloved mother, my two sisters, and my brother who still, after 15-18 long years of constant trying, still refuse to believe in the Truth of the Quran! But the Truth of the Quran and Sunnah is so powerful and so complete in its guidance, that Allah is my witness, if He helps me and guides me, I will, Insha Allah, continue to invite them to the Truth of the Quran, and supplicate the Merciful to guide them to the Truth, until the day Allah Subhanah has Decreed to recall me back to Him. Today I do realize and admit, that no matter how good and wholesome our intentions might be, and no matter how hard we try to present the case of the Truth; it is not upto a human being to guide another, but it is Allah Subhanah Who Alone chooses Whom He Wishes to guide to the Truth of Islam, for He Alone Knows who would best accept His guidance.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 28 Surah Qasas verse 56: You cannot guide whom you love, but Allah guides whomever He Pleases. And He best knows those who would accept guidance.
Your Statement: Despite of knowing all this, I still couldnt break away from this cult (because of my family ties). In other words I dont have courage to do so.
Beloved and dear Brother in Islam, it is Allah Subhanah who has blessed us with this love and mercy towards the relations He has created for us, our members of our immediate family. And regardless of whether our family members accept the Truth of the Quran or not, it is the command of Allah Subhanah that we, as believers, must be kind, merciful, respectful, and humble towards them.
There are two things which, in my humble opinion, if put in the right perspective would give one the courage to stand up and challenge the falsehood with the Truth of the Quran.
Fear of Allah Subhanah
Hope that the our beloved but misguided family members would someday accept the Truth.
Ref:1 Fear of Allah Subhanah.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 9 Surah Taubah verses 23-24:
23 O ye who believe! Take not for protectors your fathers and your brothers if they love kufr (disbelief) above eemaan (faith): if any of you do so they do wrong.
24 Say: If it be that your fathers your sons your brothers, your wives, or your kindred, or the wealth that ye have gained, or the commerce in which ye fear a decline, or the dwellings in which ye delight: are dearer to you than Allah or His Messenger or the striving in His cause; then wait until Allah brings about His Decision: and Allah guides not the rebellious.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.14 Narrated by Hadrat Anas ibn Maalik (r.a.)
The Prophet (saws) said "None of you will have eeman (faith), till he loves me (saws) more than his father, his children and all mankind!"
Beloved and dear Brother in Islam, Allah and His Messenger (saws) have commanded the believers who truly believe in Allah and the Last Day, that it is obligatory upon them to love and obey and follow Allah and His Messenger (saws) above everything else; even if it means one has to bear the brunt of hatred from his own father and mother and children, or even if it is the whole world!
One cannot have true emaan or faith, unless he loves and obeys Allah and His Messenger (saws) above all else! That is the commandment and requirement and sacrifices that Allah demands from His believing slaves!
If one fears that the obedience of Allah and His Messenger might result in the loss of love and protection of his near and close relatives, or fears his loss of respect from society, or fears his business might decline, or fear he might be thrown out of the house or society; or if anything is dearer to him than Allah, His Messenger (saws), and the striving in Allahs Cause, then he should know that Allah Subhanah is Self-Sufficient and not in need of anything in the Universe!
It seldom will happen that one who makes an intention to tread and strive in the Cause of Allah Subhanah will be welcomed with open arms by the disbelievers and the polytheists and the High Priests! But the one who truly loves Allah and His Messenger (saws), and truly fears Allah and the Last Day, will accept all the trials and tribulations that are put in his path of Truth, for he knows that this would earn him the Precious and Priceless Pleasure and Good Will of his Merciful Lord and Creator!
Ref-2: Hope that the our beloved but misguided family members would someday accept the Truth.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 66 Surah Tahreem verse 6: O you who have believed, save yourselves and your families from a Fire whose fuel shall be men and stones; over which shall be appointed fierce and stern angels, who never disobey Allahs Command, and they only do as they are commanded!
Allah Subhanah has made it a condition of our genuine love for our family members, that when Allah Subhanah has had mercy upon us and guided us to the Straight Path, we must strive our utmost and try to save our beloved family members from the Hell Fire by inviting them to submit to their Lord and Creator instead of some worldly self-appointed High Priest and his family.
It would be very selfish of us, if after Allah has had mercy upon us, and guided us to the Straight Path; to keep this Truth within ourselves! It is a condition and command of our Merciful Lord to propagate this Truth to all who are willing to listen to good caution, so that they too may be guided aright to the submission of their Merciful Lord and Creator, and do righteous good deeds that will earn them their Lords Pleasure and Goodwill. If we do not fulfill this duty and mission of the propagation of the Truth to our brethren, then it would clearly imply that we do not truly love them. It may be that initially they might rebuke or abuse us, but if Allah Wills to guide them aright to the Straight Path, they will one day become your fastest and best of friends, Insha Allah.
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May Allah Subhanah make your trial easy for you, have mercy upon you, guide you, give you the courage and the wisdom to stay steadfast on the path of Truth, and above all save you, us, and all the believers from the torment of the Hell Fire on that Inevitable Day.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,