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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:

salam brother... i am a sikh revert from london... i have been a convert for only a matter of 4 months or so... i am married to a pakistani guy... only in secret though.... his family will allow us to be togther, and are aware of my exsistance, but will allow marriage after education, as we have already decided... my husband and myself go to college together, and he gets very very angry if he sees me talking to a man or anything like that.. it doesn`t happen intentionally, but i`m in a mixed college,and sometimes i have to talk to other people to understand and get on with what i`m doin... i started wearing hijab bout 3 months ago, and still masha allah still do continue to wear it.. but i don`t no what to do about him getting angry.. i don`t no how to prevent this, and go about it... because everyhting is say, seems to just makes things worse.. i really would appreciate if u could mail me back, and help me with all this. i also find it really hard becasue i`m a convert.. i`m so glad that alah ta`ala has accepted me into islam, but i find it really hard, but no-one understands me.. i`ve left home aswell, and am away from my family, because my family wouldn`t ever accept my husband, who i really do love... i hope that u can help me.. i`ll be waiting for ur reply.. which insha allah u will
khuda hafiz

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Answer:

Sikh convert issues

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Allah is Great! All Praise is due to Allah Subhanah Who has guided the believers unto the path that is Straight. May Allah Subhanah accept and bless your reversion to Al-Islam, and give you and us all the courage and the wisdom to stay steadfast on this Path of Truth until He Decrees to call us back unto Him.

May Allah Subhanah reward you appropriately for following His command of adorning the ‘hijaab’ even at this early state of your reversion. May Allah Subhanah keep you always in His Infinite Mercy and Protection.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 33 Surah Ahzaab verse 32: O Wives of the Prophet! Ye are not like any of the (other) women: if ye do fear (Allah) be not too complaisant of speech lest one in whose heart is a disease should be moved with desire: but speak ye a speech (that is) just.

Islam does not prohibit a believing woman to talk to a non-mehram male if she has some genuine work or business with them; provided she talks to them in a proper and business-like manner. In the above Aayah of Surah Ahzaab, Allah Subhanah commands some of the most chaste women who ever lived on this planet earth, to not be complaisant of speech and talk in a straight business-like manner.

What Islam does discourage and prohibit is the casual meeting with a non-mehram member of the opposite sex in private, or having a vain or illicit talk or relationship with them. But if one has genuine work and talks to a non-mehram member of the opposite sex in a straight business-like manner, there is no harm.

There are some men who might be excessively jealous and possessive because of their intensity of love for the person concerned, and sometimes they show that by getting upset if they feel that their wife or their daughter is having an unnecessary conversation with a non-mehram man. If you think your husband is blessed with this intensity of love for you, and your talking to non-mehram males effects his self-respect to a state whereby he is getting upset; it would be righteous and best if you are extra careful in your conversations with the non-mehram males and keep the talk as straight and business-like as the work demands. Insha Allah this behavior of yours would bring this conflict to an end.

Beloved sister in Islam, our humble and sincere advice to you as a new revert would be that you read the translation of the Holy Quran in a language you understand best, so that you may be able to comprehend and follow the commands and laws of the Lord All-Knowing, Most Merciful; and thus understand the delicate relationship and the rights that Allah has created in this sacred bond of marriage between a man and a woman. The more you study the Quran, the more you will understand the wisdom behind each command of the Merciful Lord. This knowledge will Insha Allah enable you to live in peace and harmony in the life of this transitory world, and will direct you to a path that leads to success in the Hereafter.

Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verses 125-127:

125 Those whom Allah willeth to Guide, He openeth their breast to Islam; those whom He willeth to leave astray He maketh their breast close and constricted as if they had to climb up to the skies: thus doth Allah (heap) the penalty on those who refuse to believe.

126 This (Al-Islam) is the way of thy Lord leading straight: We have detailed the Signs for those who receive admonition.

127 For them will be a Home of Peace in the presence of their Lord: He will be their Friend because they practiced (righteousness).

May Allah Subhanah help you, guide you, have mercy on you, and give you the courage and the wisdom to stay steadfast on the path of Truth you have chosen. May Allah Subhanah accept and bless your reversion to this deen of Truth, and from His Mercy and Grace grant you the best of this world and the best of the Hereafter. Ameen.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your Brother in Islam,

Burhan