Hajj priority for wife or parents
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i am working in ksa. in a construction company.
My question is if i wanted to bring for performing haj, to whom i have to call first. My parents or my wife. please note. i cannot call at a time them here. my father age is more than 55, my mother age is more than 50 yrs and i had just married. both are mashaallah good health i think they can perform haj.
i am working in ksa since 5 , but unfortunately i had also not performed haj, bcos i was having loan still my loan is not yet finished too and responsibility of my younger sister. alhamdulillah she got married also last year.
i need guidence from you whom i have to give first priority. my wife is telling me that she wants to perform minimum umrah with me, but i fill to perform haj with her. as you know if i am performing haj with my parents then i will not get permission from saudi goverment untill next five yrs. so please guide me in the light of quraan and shariath. awaiting for your
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Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 17 Surah Bani Israel verses 23-24: Your Lord has enjoined the following: You should not worship anyone but Him Alone! Treat your parents with great kindness; if either or both of them attain old age, do not even say uff to them; nor rebuke them; but speak to them kind words. Treat them with humility and tenderness and pray, O our Lord, be merciful to them, just as they brought me up with kindness and affection in my childhood.
After the rights due to Allah Subhanah and His Messenger (saws), in Islam the biggest rights in all mankind are due to ones parents. And after the rights of parents, is the rights of ones wives, children, near relatives, far relatives, muslims, neighbors, etc.
Your Question: My question is if i wanted to bring for performing haj, to whom i have to call first: my parents or my wife.
The best option would obviously be to call them all together, but if for any reason that is not possible and you have to choose between calling your parents or your wife first, then it would be preferable to choose calling your parents first.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 1.505 Narrated by Abdullah
I asked the Prophet (saws): "Which deed is the dearest to Allah?" He (saws) replied, "To offer the prayers at their early stated fixed times." I asked, "What is the next (in goodness)?" He (saws) replied, "To be good and dutiful to your parents." I again asked, "What is the next (in goodness)?" He (saws) replied, "To participate in Jihad (religious fighting) in Allah's cause." 'Abdullah added, "I asked only that much and if I had asked more, the Prophet (saws) would have told me more."
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