Revert girl loves boy
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
I am mariam, from INDIA.I am a convert & in love with a muslim boy.My father is no more & i have 2 sisters one is married & the other one is studying. I am working. I love this boy very much & ALLAH knows that i have already considered him as my husband.
In my dream also i can`t think of marrying anybody else.But the problem is that his parents are not agreeing to our marriage.i respect this parents like i respect mine & at the same time i want to marry him & only him becoz for me he is already my husband. we want to marry only if his parents agree to it.Please suggest what i should do to make them agree to our marriage.i want them to belife that i am a true muslim & will follow all there family norms as they want me to.
I have faith only on the Almighty ALLAH & i know that ALLAH alone can help me to get what i want.
Please suggest me what i should do ?
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Revert girl loves boy
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
May the Merciful Lord accept your reversion to the deen of Truth, and guide you and us all to the Right Path.
Beloved sister in Islam, there is absolutely no harm if you like someone and wish to get married to him. It would not be considered righteousness for the parents of the boy to refuse the marriage without a valid reason, especially if the girl is a pious and god-fearing believer.
The best thing you should do is have patience, and with wisdom and politeness try to convince the parents of the boy to agree to the marriage. Be constant in your supplications to the Merciful Lord, and implore Him in all humility and hope to make easy for you whatever is good for you in your deen, in your worldly life, and your hereafter; and if what you have chosen is not the best for your deen, your worldly life and your hereafter, ask Allah Subhanah to substitute for what is best for you; for Allah Subhanah Alone Knows, and we do not know.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216 (part): But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah Knoweth and ye know not.
It is not considered piety and behoving of a believer, if he chooses something and demands that the Lord give him that and only that; but piety and trust in Allah Subhanah is to ask Him to give us the thing which in His Infinite and Supreme Knowledge is best for us.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,