Girl asks Divorce and the Prophet (saws) agreed
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa
Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be
upon all of you)
One of our
brothers/sisters has asked this question:
Salam,
I have often seen your replies about marriages in which parents are not happy.You always reply that if parents are not happy then
one must sacrifice his/her love. I just heard of this Ahadith
and from this it looks to me that its not always the
case. Parents can also sometimes makes wrong
decisions.
Please refer to: http://www.uh.edu/campus/msa/
Sahih Bukhari
Volume 9, Book 85,
Number 78:
Narrated Khansa' bint Khidam
Al-Ansariya:
That her father gave her in marriage when she was a matron and
she disliked that marriage. So she came and
(complained) to the Prophets and he declared that marriage invalid. (See Hadith No. 69, Vol. 7)
Please let me know
what do you think after reading this Ahadith.
Thanks.
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Answer:
Girl asks Divorce and the Prophet (saws) agreed
In the name of Allah, We praise
Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can
misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We
bear witness that there is no one (no idol,
no person, no grave, no
prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone,
and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of
His Messengers.
The hadith
above is indeed authentic; but the point that we try to make is a little
different from the situation narrated in the above quoted hadith. The situation in the above hadith is that the girl was married against her will, and thus the
marriage was annulled and declared invalid by the Messenger of Allah
(saws).
All the evidence and replies we have
presented is for one,
who intends to marry someone without the approval of their
parents; where the guidance given by
Allah and His Messenger(saws) is primarrily to obey
one’s parents.
Islam has given a balanced
guidance on the issue of choosing a partner for one’s marriage; and have advised in general terms to always seek the consent and
approval of the parents.
If one marries without the
consent and approval of their parents, the marriage will still be considered
legal in Islam. But if the parents marry the girl without her consent, that
kind of a marriage will be considered null and void in the sight of Shariah.
Thus, when choosing a bride or a
groom, the believers are advised to seek the advice and approval of their
parents, even though the final decision of whom they should marry is actually
in their hands.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4928 Narrated by Abud
Darda
When a man came to
him and said, "I have a wife whom my mother commands me to divorce,"
he replied to him that he had heard Allah's Messenger (peace be
upon him) say, "A parent is the best of the gates of
There is a huge internal
conflict between the generations in today’s ungodly world! Some children give scant respect to their parents, and choose to marry
their chosen partner with or without their parents consent or approval. And some parents forcefully arrange the
marriage of their children,
without seeking the approval of their children! Islam has guided the believers to a medium
and balanced way, and
advised the children to respect and obey their parents and consult them when
choosing a partner for marriage; and
advised the parents to seek the approval of their children before arranging
their marriage.
Whatever written of Truth and
benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error
is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He
is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,