Girl wants to get married to lover
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
First of all I would
like to compliment you on the good work that you are doing. May Allah bless you
for this and May Allah guide all of us on the right path and open our hearts
towards Islam - Ameen
My question is , if a girl has committed adultery and repented whole heartedly for this major sin and now she wants to get married to only this man with whom she has committed this crime as her "haya" doesn`t even let her imagine of getting married to someother man after all this - both the man & woman are muslim
But the problem is her parents are not agreeing to this marriage, she has tried for years to convince them but they are just not giving in basically because they are from two different countries - that has been the reason from very begining.
This girl is crossing her age she wants to get settled as soon as possible, she will be 30yrs old soon. Her parents know that she will not agree for any other man other than this person, they know they can`t force her for some other person, so whats the point on keeping her unmarried for so long.
What should she do now as she doesn`t want to take any such decision that will anger Allah, she doesn`t want to repeat her mistakes in past as she really repents now and blames herself and her sins for all the pain she has gone thru all these years.
Please give a suggestion and pray for her and this man also - May Allah guide them both in the right path.
Ps. her parents are not aware of the physically realtion that these two had - adultery.
Jazak Allah Khair
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Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 39 Surah Zumur verses 53-54: (O Prophet) say: O My servants who have wronged their own souls.Do not despair of Allahs Mercy! Surely, Allah forgives all sins. He indeed is the All Forgiving, All Merciful. Return to your Lord and submit to Him before the scourge overtakes you; for then you may get no help from anywhere.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 3 Surah Ale Imraan verse 135-136: Allah likes such good people very much, who, if ever they commit a base deed or wrong their own soul by the commission of a sin, remember Allah instantly, and ask for forgiveness from Him for their shortcomings. For who, but Allah, can forgive sins? (And Allah loves those) who do not knowingly persist in the wrongs they did. These will be rewarded with forgiveness from Allah, and with Gardens beneath which canals flow, and they will reside therein forever! How excellent is the reward of those who do good deeds!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 25 Surah Furqaan verses 63-71: The (true) servants of the Merciful are those who walk humbly on the earth. When the ignorant people behave insolently towards them, they say, Peace to you; (And those) who pass their nights in prostrating themselves and standing before their Lord and pray, O our Lord, save us from the torment of Hell, for its torment is killing! It is an evil abode, and an evil resting place. (And those) who, when they spend are neither extravagant, nor miserly, but keep the golden mean between the two extremes. (And those) who do not invoke any god but Allah Alone, nor kill a soul unjustly, which Allah has forbidden, nor commit adultery He who does this shall be punished for his sin, and his torment shall be doubled on the Day of Resurrection, and he shall abide in a state of ignominy; EXCEPT THE ONE WHO MAY HAVE REPENTED (AFTER THOSE SINS), AND HAVE BELIEVED AND DONE RIGHTEOUS DEEDS. For then, Allah will change his evil deeds into good deeds, and He is very Forgiving and Merciful. In fact, one who repents and does righteous deeds, returns to Allah as one rightly should!
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 6 Surah Anaam verse 54: When those come to you who believe in Our Signs, say: "Peace be on you! Your Lord had inscribed for Himself (the rule of) Mercy. Verily if any of you did evil in ignorance, and thereafter repented and amended (his conduct), Lo! He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."
Whatever befalls a person in this short transitory life, whether it is success or a setback, is nothing more than a test from the All Knowing, All Wise Lord!
The girl should try with patience and with wisdom to convince her parents to get her married to the man whom she wishes to marry; but if after trying her best, she finds that her parents do not agree, she should not close the option of getting married to another good man who has the approval of her parents.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216 (part): ..But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah Knoweth and ye know not.
One should be patient and constant in their supplications to the Merciful Lord, and implore Him to give us what is best for our life in this world and our Hereafter. Maybe He has in store for the person someone much better than what she wants or what she has lost! She should keep her absolute faith in Him and His Knowledge and Power, for He Alone Knows what is best for His slaves.
Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."
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Your Brother in Islam,