Can one chat with boy on the net?
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Asalaam – alaikum Brother. First of all I’d like to congratulate you on the excellent job you’re doing of guiding Muslims towards the right path.Mashallah.May Allah Bless you. Brother, I’ve been under a dilemma since a long time and it is been troubling me ever since. Im currently studying in a medical college, and I had seen this boy, we have never met outside college, on our own, neither have spoken over the phone or anything of that sort. All we would do is chatting over the net, and deep down somewhere I felt we really connected. And both of us have started to grow feelings for each other. Though, brother, unlike other boys his age, he hasn’t taken any advantage of this, and I’m thankful for this, alhamdulillah. We both know that we are God-fearing Muslims and shouldn’t be doing anything that would be against Allah’s commands. Moreover, both of us are in the medical field, a lot of responsibilities comes with that, and to make our careers is of utmost importance right now. Brother, its been a long time since we haven’t spoken over the net, but I still cant stop myself from getting thoughts of him. I may sound up surd brother, but please guide me on the right path as to what to do and PLEASE GIVE ME ANY DUA WHICH I CAN PRAY SO THAT I CAN OVERCOME THE THOUGHTS OF HIM.Moreover, brother, we both know, we come from different castes, he a Sunni, and myself a Shia, though however it may be irrelevant for us but may not be for our families, and the last thing we would want is family conflicts. Though we haven’t spoken to each other about this, but we are aware of this fact & it could be one of the reasons we have stopped communicating. It would be better this comes to an end, than to reach a stage, we both repent for. I hope I have tried to make the right decision brother, if not, please guide me. Jazakallah.
P.S. Please reply to me as soon as possible
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Can one chat with boy on the net?
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Dear Sister in Islam, there is absolutely no harm and no sin in liking someone; the harm and sin starts when one develops or forms an illicit relationship with the person, be it in person, over the phone, over the internet, etc.
Your Statement: Moreover, both of us are in the medical field, a lot of responsibilities comes with that, and to make our careers is of utmost importance right now.
The thing that should be of upmost importance to any believer, who sincerely believes in Allah and the Last Day, should be to live his/her life within the boundaries of Allah Subhanah.
Thus the best thing to do, if both of you intend marriage, is to get the boy introduced to your father, or brother, or guardian; and let him make his intentions clear to them. That would be the most righteous thing to do.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3096 Narrated by Anas ibn Malik
Allah's Messenger (saws) said, "When a man marries, he has fulfilled half of the religion; so let him fear Allah regarding the remaining half."
But if the intention is only to develop friendship and see how things develop in the future; that would be playing right into the hands of the Shaitaan, the avowed enemy of mankind! The mission of Shaitaan is to make man disobey his Creator in any way he can, and guide him to transgress the laws and boundaries of Allah Subhanah.
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 3118 Narrated by Umar ibn al-Khattab
The Prophet (saws) said, "Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third."
Although you have not yet talked or gone out alone with the boy, chatting over the internet is only a step away from it. It is prohibited in Islam for a man and woman to talk or ‘chat’, where the topic involved is ‘sexual’ or vain in nature.
Your Question: PLEASE GIVE ME ANY DUA WHICH I CAN PRAY SO THAT I CAN OVERCOME THE THOUGHTS OF HIM.
Whenever the thoughts arise, seek refuge in Allah Subhanah from the whispering of the Shaitaan by declaring: “Aoodo billahe minas Shaitaan ir-rajeem”, and/or by reciting the 113th and 114th Surahs of the Glorious Quran (Surah Falaq and Surah An-Naas).
Insha Allah, the Merciful Lord will protect you from all harm.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,