Brother in control of converting wife
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
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My Question or sort
of seeking suggestion from u
My elder brother married with a filipino girl She has converted to Islam but for the sake of maintaining Marriage status and living among us. V have called her here in pakistan she is living in her own way even though v have explained her everything how to live in a islamic culture but she is not ready to accept all Her forcasted dream is to live in Phillipine with four kids and my brother. He is totally in control her and does listen anything from us belives her statement regarding us but not ready to listen her mistakes what she does here Under this circumtance u suggest me how to tackle or make my brother understand all this about. On the other hand v have told everything to him what she does. but donot know why he does not understand. please suggest me what to do. thanks
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 5:This day are (all) things good and pure made lawful unto you. The food of the People of the Book is lawful unto you and yours is lawful unto them. (Lawful unto you in marriage) are (not only) chaste women who are believers, but chaste women among the People of the Book revealed before your time, when ye give them their due dowers and desire chastity, not lewdness nor secret intrigues. If anyone rejects faith, fruitless is his work, and in the Hereafter he will be in the ranks of those who have lost (all spiritual good)
Firstly, we assume that the Fillipino sister your brother married is from the Christian faith. Allah Subhanah has made it legal for the believers to marry a woman from the People of the Book (Jews and Christians) without converting to Islam.
Since the Filipino sister has accepted Islam, she will be treated and given all the rights which are due to a believer. Allah Subhanah has not given man the power to looks into another persons heart, nor has He given man the power to figure out the true intentions of others actions; this knowledge belongs to Allah Subhanah Alone.
Since your brother has already married his choice and has four children from his marriage, it would be best to let them live their lives according to their best judgment. If one persists in complaining to their brother about his wife, or her attitude, or her behavior, etc., it may be that the brother might take this as a sign of hostility, and move further away from his near relatives.
It would be best to be patient and let your brother lead his life according to his best judgment. As a genuine well-wisher, what you can and should do is constantly supplicate Allah Subhanah for your brother, and pray that Allah Subhanah grants him a good and wholesome life in this world and in the Hereafter.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,