Loved girl but she married to another
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
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i loved a girl,,,i prayed to alllah day and night by reading quran and namaaz with clean and open heart ,,dat the girl must be married to me,,,but recently the girl got married to another man,,and i was ruined....wat do u think about this happenin to me,,,is alllah angry with me ? ,,,,,,plz clarify dis doubt of mine,,,
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Loved girl but she married to another
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Beloved brother in Islam, sometimes it happens that we really want a thing to happen, or we really want to acquire a thing which we think is the absolute best for us, etc.; and we ardently pray to Allah Subhanah to give us that thing, but at times Allah does not give it to us!
That is because the All-Knowing Lord knows what is best for us, and what is not; and we do not know! Thus, one may think that something is really good for him and his future; but in reality it might be really an evil thing and maybe one is involved in a severe trial because of it! Or one may think that something is really bad for him, but in reality this thing might be really good for him! For Allah Subhanah Knows, and we do not know.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqarah verse 216 (part):But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth and ye know not.
That is why it is always best when asking something from Allah Subhanah to say what the Prophet (saws) said:
O Allah! I seek Your guidance (in making a choice) by virtue of Your Knowledge, and I seek ability by virtue of Your Power, and I ask You of Your great bounty. You have Power, I have none. And You Know, I know not. You are the Knower of hidden things.
O Allah! If in Your knowledge, (this matter) is good for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs; immediate and in the distant, then ordain for me, make it easy for me and bless it for me. And if in Your knowledge, (this matter) is bad for my religion, my livelihood and my affairs; immediate and in the distant, then turn it away from me, and turn me away from it. And ordain for me the good wherever it be and make me pleased with it.
Your Question: wat do u think about this happenin to me,,,is alllah angry with me ?
Abu Hurairah reported, "The Prophet (saws) said, "Nothing is more dear to Allah than one's supplication to Him.''
Salman reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Your Lord, the Blessed and the Exalted One, is Modest and Generous, and He loathes to turn away His servant empty-handed when he raises his hands to Him in supplication."
Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 2257 Narrated by Abu Sa'id al-Khudri
The Prophet (saws) said, "Any Muslim who makes a supplication containing nothing which is sinful, or which involves breaking ties of relationship, will be given for it by Allah one of three things: He will give him swift answer, or store it up for him in the next world, or turn away from him an equivalent amount of evil." Those who heard it said they would then make many supplications and he replied that Allah was more ready to answer than they were to ask.
Nu'man b. Bashir reported that the Prophet (saws), said, "Verily dua (supplication) is worship."
Beloved brother, just because one did not get what one coveted does not mean that Allah Subhanah is angry with His beseeching slave! In fact, nothing is dearer to Allah Subhanah than the beseeching and imploring of His believing slave.
The believers must put their full trust in their All-Knowing and Merciful Lord, and know for sure that He knows what is good for us and what is not!
Maybe the person you coveted so much might not be that good for you after all!
Maybe the person you coveted so much might have put your life in this world, your deen, and/or your Hereafter in a severe trial!
Maybe Allah Subhanah has chosen a person who is much better for you and your life in this world and the Hereafter!
Thus my beloved brother in Islam, put your full trust in Allah Subhanah and His Divine Decrees, and learn, with your heart and soul, to accept and submit to His Decisions, whatever they may be; for surely He Alone knows what is best for us and what is not.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,