Bohra repeating iddah
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A lady was about to come out of her Iddat peroid and it was her last day.As she was going towards the bathroom for her ghusl, a young boy passed her way. The concerned members went to ask Aqa Molla on what should be done.
Aqa Molla said that the boy who passed the lady's way is to be questioned on what he saw. On questioning the young boy, he said he saw a woman dressed in full white clothes. To this reply Aqa Molla ordered the lady to re-sit the Iddat period all over again.
Q1.Why did he take such a decision?
Q2.Can this be Islamically justified with proof from the Holy Quran?
Q3.What about the lady who underwent this tragedy?Couldnt she have a say to this matter? Werent her feelings considered?
Q4.Do you think the decision taken was right according to Islam?
Q5.Can you please shade some more light on "Iddat", what to do and not etc...etc
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Bohra repeating iddah
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Baqrah verse 234: If any of you die and leave widows behind they shall wait concerning themselves four months and ten days: when they have fulfilled their term there is no blame on you if they dispose of themselves in a just and reasonable manner. And Allah is well acquainted with what ye do.
The sitting of a believing woman in iddah or waiting period for four months and ten days is a direct Command of the Merciful Lord; and thus obligatory on the believing woman who sincerely fears Allah and the Last Day.
Allah Subhanah has prescribed one iddah for the widow of the believers; and no man has a right to declare that a woman has to repeat the iddah for any reason whatsoever!
Some misguided sects have made this iddah period a form of torture for the believing woman, and have introduced many things in it which have absolutely nothing to do with Islam! If a woman who is in Iddah has absolutely no one to take care of her daily needs, there is no harm if she even goes to the markets to buy her groceries; or visit the doctor in state of emergency, etc.; which have absolutely no effect on her iddah or waiting period.
The misguided sects self-declared leaders and priests, who have ordered the believing woman to repeat her iddah again just because some non-mehram person or child has seen her accidentally, have absolutely no basis for their decisions from the Quran or Sunnah, and will be brought forth as criminals in the Court of Allah Subhanah for declaring something they had no right or authority to declare!
The iddah period for a widow who is not pregnant is four months and ten days; and if she is pregnant the iddah period is until the delivery of her child. No matter what happens, the iddah period cannot be repeated or increased in the least!
Q-1: Why did he take such a decision?
It is obvious that any person who declares that a believing woman has to re-sit her iddah, has not based his decision from the clear guidance and teachings of the Quran and Sunnah. Thus this decision would not be binding on the true believers, who sincerely believe in Allah and the Last Day.
Allah says in the Holy Quran Chapter 9 Surah Taubah verse 31:They have made their scholars and their monks as their Rabbs besides Allah!
Narrated Hadrat Adi bin Hatim (r.a.), who was formerly a Christian, that he came upon the Prophet (saws) and said: This verse (9:31 quoted above) accuses us of making our scholars and our monks our Lords besides Allah. We do not worship our scholars. The Messenger of Allah (saws) replied: Is it not a fact that you accept as unlawful what they declare as unlawful, and lawful what they declare as lawful? I admitted that they did. The Messenger of Allah (saws) then said: What is that other than making them their rabbs besides Allah?
Related by Tirmidhi, Ahmad and Ibn Jareer.
Q-2: Can this be Islamically justified with proof from the Holy Quran?
There is absolutely not a shred of evidence or proof in the Holy Quran or in the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws) that would justify a believing woman widow to re-sit or extend her iddah period for any reason whatsoever!
Q-3: What about the lady who underwent this tragedy?
Couldnt she have a
say to this matter? Werent her feelings considered?
The believing woman absolutely should not have obeyed the decision of the self-made priest who commanded her to re-sit her iddah, without asking for proof from the Quran and Sunnah which he would never have been able to provide!
If the woman obeyed the command of the priest and re-sat her iddah, then she, in her ignorance, would have accepted the command of the priest above the Divine Command of Allah Subhanah; and that would constitute her making this priest her rabb or lord instead of the Real Rabb and Lord, Allah Subhanah wa Taala.
Q-4: Do you think the decision taken was right according to Islam?
The decision to re-sit the iddah is absolutely against the clear guidance and teachings of the Glorious Quran and the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saws); and must be immediately rejected by the believers who truly believe in Allah and the Last Day.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 44 (part):If any do fail to judge by what Allah hath Revealed, they are indeed the Kaaferoon (disbelievers).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 45 (part):If any do fail to judge by what Allah hath Revealed, they are indeed the Dhalimoon (wrong-doers).
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 5 Surah Maidah verse 47 (part):If any do fail to judge by what Allah hath Revealed, they are indeed the Faasiqoon (transgressors).
Q-5: Can you please shade some more light on "Iddat", what to do and not etc...etc
The rules for observing the waiting period or iddah and period of mourning for a widow are as follows:
The widow should not wear fashionable or attractive clothing for the term of her iddah; neither apply perfume; nor apply make-up, etc. She must be dressed in plain, simple and humble clothing for the period of the iddah.
She should not leave the house unless there is an emergency or a basic need, which no one can do for her. Example: she may go to a hospital if ill, or she may go out to get her food and necessities if there is no one to get it for her, etc.
She should be in a genuine state of mourning, remember Allah much, and pray and supplicate Allah Subhanah for her deceased partner and herself.
There is no particular clothing, or a particular color of clothing that she needs to wear like only black, or only white, etc. Any basic, simple, humble and plain clothing will suffice. Neither is there any restriction that she cannot see the moon, or the mirror, etc. which some people try to enforce on the widow in the name of Islam. These have absolutely no basis or evidence from the guidance of Allah and His Messenger (saws).
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,