Love girl and want to marry
Mu' meneen Brothers and Sisters,
As Salaam Aleikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. (May Allah's Peace, Mercy and Blessings be upon all of you)
One of our brothers/sisters has asked this question:
assalam walaikum,i had some physical relationship with a girl whom i love a lot ,and i know that its now very important to marry that girl,the girl is very good,in nature,and has full faith in allah,but the girls mother is having an bad charecter, so due to this my parents shall not allow me to marry that girl,and as i realised my mistake i have decided to marry only her,but i also cant leave my parents,i dont know what to do ,soo please help me,i am thinking of leave my house and go away,ad give up my whole life for helping my poor islamic brothers who are in trouble ,am i doing right? reply me soon
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Love girl and want to marry
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is no one (no idol, no person, no grave, no prophet, no imam, no dai, nobody!) worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad(saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
First and foremost, you must immediately stop your physical relationship with the girl, and seek sincere repentance from Allah Subhanah for your past deeds; it is expected that you will find Allah Subhanah Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful.
Secondly, you must make a sincere and polite effort to convince your parents regarding your choice in marriage; that is the best and purest way.
Your Question: i am thinking of leave my house and go away,ad give up my whole life for helping my poor islamic brothers who are in trouble ,am i doing right?
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 4.248 Narrated by Abdullah bin Amr
A man came to the Prophet (saws) asking his permission to take part in Jihad. The Prophet (saws) asked him, "Are your parents alive?" He replied in the affirmative. The Prophet (saws) said to him, "Then exert yourself in their service."
In light of the above guidance of the Messenger of Allah (saws), you would get a bigger reward from Allah Subhanah if you stayed with your parents and served them diligently, rather than doing Jihad in the Way of Allah Subhanah!
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
Your Brother in Islam,