Do i have to marry the girl i loved as i am already married???
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Salaam Brother in Islam. I am a married man with kidds. I have made love with another muslim girl for some time.... but now we are at the point where this girl wants me to marry her. I want to marry this girl too. I have asked permission from my first wife many times in last 7yrs to allow me for the second marriage but she replies in negative always. I have tried to make my wife understand that i cannot leave this girl but (obviously did not tell her about the love i made with this girl ). I do understand that some wives do not permitt their husbands to get into second marriage at all but what i should do to over come this issue/problem. My wife says " she will not allow me to sleep , meet or even see her or her family even if i did get married with that girl". Brother, i do not want to hurt any one of them , creat any further problems or commit any more sins.... I am now very scared beacause i think that i might do another sin by not marrying this girl . PLease do gide me in detail to what can be done AND will be the best solution in ISLAM.
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Answer:
In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.
Brother, you have committed the grave sin of zina with the other woman and if you do not make sincere taubah to Allah swt and stop this adulterous affair immediately you will be severely accountable on the Day of Qiyamah in the just court of your Lord. You cannot expect to be rewarded with the permission to marry this woman, after you have boldly crossed the boundaries of Islam and its Shariah. This sin of zina which is from the kabaeer cannot exonerate you from the anger and wrath of Allah swt by you acceding to marry the woman who is an equal partner in crime with you.
For your information you do not need the express permission of your wife to marry up to 4 women at one time. We are not surprised at her insistence of not giving her consent to one who has cheated her and broken the basic marital covenant.Brother, you should not be worried about marrying this other woman. Your worry should be to receive the mercy and forgiveness of Allah swt.. So get your act together and humbly make many supplications and taubah for the great sin you have committed. Maybe Allah swt will shower His mercy and forgiveness if He wills.
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