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ASalam O ALikum May ALLAH Bless You all I have a Question about my family and i assume i am asking in right sectionMy mother have 3 sisters and 2 brothers ,and one sister is very poor and she have 5 childern so due to her poorty my parents decided to support her ,and they asked her for her daughter's hand for me and they agreed and know i am engaged with my cousin,but my other aunts and uncles(sisters and brothers of my mother) became displeased with us and now they dont even talk to us and my aunt ,a way back we also invited them to my elder brother's marriage but they did not come.There demand was that my uncle who is poor should come to there home and beg for appology,but my uncle did not go thereMy question now is that what should we do i may want to tell you that we have gone 3 times to their home to settle down all things but they dont want to rejoin us
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Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 13 Surah Ar-Raad verse 25: As for those who break their covenant with Allah after confirming it, who cut asunder relationships which Allah has bidden to be joined, and spread chaos on the earth, their’s shall be the curse, and they shall have a wretched abode in the Hereafter.
Allah Says in the Holy Quran Chapter 2 Surah Bakarah verse 27:And He leads astray only those who disobey Allah, who break Allah’s covenant after ratifying it, who cut asunder relationships what Allah has ordered to be joined, and who produce chaos on the Earth. These are indeed the people who are the losers.
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.17 Narrated by Abu Huraira
The Prophet (saws) said, "The word 'Ar-Rahm (womb) derives its name from Ar-Rahman (i.e., one of the names of Allah) and Allah said: 'I will keep good relation with the one who will keep good relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin), and sever the relation with him who will sever the relation with you (the womb, i.e. kith and kin).
Sahih Al-Bukhari Hadith 8.15 Narrated by Anas bin Malik
Allah 's Messenger (saws) said, "Whoever loves that he be granted more wealth and that his lease of life be prolonged, then he should keep good relations with his kith and kin."
Brother no one can force somebody to honor relationship if they don't want to. As long as you are comfortable with the fact that you tried, then there will be no sin on you. In future too you and your family should always be ready to mend the relationship whenever they are ready. They will have a severe accounting to give to Allah swt on that inevitable Day of Judgement for breaking blood relationship.
Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allahs Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is of me. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.
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