I have love a guy in pk n im from uk my parentes dont like him

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I have love a guy in pk n im from uk my parentes dont like him because hes not good looking and they poor i love him because he loves me and he has a nyc personality and cares for me hes not going to get married to anyone but me. i cnt get married to him because my parents are not happy with it and i dont want to be apart from my mum but i do want to go to him what should i do islamicly?

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Answer:

Marriage

In the name of Allah, We praise Him, seek His help and ask for His forgiveness. Whoever Allah guides none can misguide, and whoever He allows to fall astray, none can guide them aright. We bear witness that there is none worthy of worship but Allah Alone, and we bear witness that Muhammad (saws) is His slave-servant and the seal of His Messengers.

Sister your parents have reared you up till now and they are the people who love you most in this world. There is no reason to believe that they want to harm you. They would wish the best for you always.

It is very important that you receive the consent and blessings of your parents where your marriage is concerned. Marriage is but a sunnah and obedience to your parents is a preferred fard (obligatory).

You yourself said that the man you like is poor. If you disobey your parents then there is a possibility that your relations with them will be strained and Allah forbid your marriage does not work, you will be left in a dire situation. A marriage binds two families and not only two individuals. Therefore it is very important to have the support of the family so that in future when you have children there can be healthy interaction between all the members.

Therefore sister do the right thing and have patience and look for another man whom your parents and you agree upon. There will be blessings in this choice. Islamically this will be the best path.

May Allah swt make your trials easy.

Whatever written of Truth and benefit is only due to Allah’s Assistance and Guidance, and whatever of error is only ones. Allah Alone Knows Best and He is the Only Source of Strength.

Your brothers and well wishers in Islam,

 

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